good cop/bad cop

For an Integral health care provider, both types of love need to be included in one person, so we don’t play good cop/bad cop with addicts. In early recovery, mother love is more important; just as in the early life of a child, mother love is more important than father love. Clients must feel that they are accepted, welcomed, and cared for. But as treatment goes on, and health is restored, the balance between mother love and father love begins to shift, and our clients become responsible for their own healing process and held accountable to the high standards it requires.

2013, John Dupuy, Integral Recovery: A Revolutionary Approach to the Treatment of Alcoholism and Addiction, SUNY Press, →ISBN, page 200

USA Today bestselling author Lauren Layne brings us NYPD’s Finest—where three Moretti brothers fulfill their family’s cop legacy. Seeing his longtime partner Jill with someone else triggers feelings in Vincent he never knew he had. Now he’ll have to stop playing good cop/bad cop, and find a way to convince her to be his partner for life…

2016, Lauren Layne, Cuff Me, Hachette UK, →ISBN

Playing good cop/bad cop is not good for anyone. The kids will learn which parent they can manipulate, and they will also resent the parent who is the constant enforcer. The good cop parent isn’t doing their child any favors by being lenient. He/she is being a doormat, and that is going to backfire for that parent when the children get older. They will not respect that parent. The other parent will resent having to be the bad cop.

2020, Melissa Oatman, Beautifully Broken: The Spiritual Woman’s Guide to Thriving (Not Simply Surviving) After a Breakup or Divorce, MotherButterfly Books, →ISBN

They watched as the interrogators played “Good Cop/Bad Cop.” The one who spoke first was friendly and fair. The other was hostile and scary.

1988, Franklin W. Dixon, Dead on Target, Simon Pulse, →ISBN

Korine didn’t dignify his question with an answer. It was strange. She felt that Sudley was enjoying her discomfiture. She’d heard of policemen playing Good Cop/Bad Cop. She hoped that the Good Cop would arrive soon.

2001, Julie Wray Herman, Three Dirty Women and the Bitter Brew, The Overmountain Press, →ISBN, page 40

When they played Good Cop/Bad Cop, Martinez had been very effective as the frightening arm of the law, and McFadden, despite his size, as the kindly young Irishman who understood what had happened and wanted only to help.

2003, W.E.B. Griffin, Final Justice, Penguin, →ISBN

“All right,” he said, turning to the first sheet of paper inside. “We’re not playing Good Cop/Bad Cop here. Do you know that game?” “Yes, sir. Some captains delegate all the unpopular orders to their exec so he can take the heat.” “Right. Well, I don’t believe in that. If an unpopular order has to be given, the captain should take responsibility for it himself.[…]”

2004, David Gerrold, Tales of the Star Wolf, SFBC, →ISBN

He’d somehow convinced Masoski to let her go without posting bail; in fact, she’d bypassed all the messy details that usually accompany being arrested. Why? She wondered if Goodley and Masoski were playing Good Cop/Bad Cop. She thought back over the afternoon and decided it didn’t matter what his motives were.

2005, Sandra Carey Cody, Put Out the Light, Avalon Books, →ISBN