Meanings
- slangSexual activity or intercourse between drag queens.
Speaking of love, were there any hookups on RuPaul's Drag Race? A little kai kai, perhaps? (Kai Kai is a term that is used to talk about two drag queens having sexual relations.)
2010 February, Michael Steck, “Michael vs Pandora: Round 1”, in The Empty Closet, number 431, page 12 more examples
Willam's parodies—including "The Vagina Song, "Chow Down," "Let's Have a Kai Kai," "Love You Like a Big Schlong" and, most recently, "Boy is a Bottom"—have proven to be prime examples of Willam's comedic abilities.
2013 April, Frontiers, volume 31, issue 25, "For A Good Time, Call Willam", page 50But the other night with Ace marked my first kai kai, and it was in a toilet worse than that of a gay club. That's growth. Doing stuff in drag was not much different from doing stuff out of drag. All the parts work the same, and it's quite fun […]
2020, Crystal Rasmussen, Tom Rasmussen, Diary of a Drag Queen
Origin
Related to kiki: either related to the sense "lesbian who is neither butch nor femme" because a butch who was sexual with another butch was considered un-butch and thus kiki, and likewise a femme sexual with another femme, and the term was then extended to a trans person who was sexual with another trans person or a drag queen who was sexual with another drag queen, or perhaps extended from the sense "gathering for gossiping, social activity".
Full word history & related roots →Cite this entry
kai kai. (n.d.). In WatkinsX Dictionary. Retrieved November 4, 2026, from https://dictionary.watkinsx.com/word/kai%20kai
“kai kai.” WatkinsX Dictionary, https://dictionary.watkinsx.com/word/kai%20kai. Accessed November 4, 2026.
WatkinsX Dictionary, s.v. “kai kai,” accessed November 4, 2026, https://dictionary.watkinsx.com/word/kai%20kai.
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