hem and haw

present singular third person hems and haws · participle present hemming and hawing · participle past hemmed and hawed · past hemmed and hawed · alternative dated hem and hah

1. USidiomaticTo discuss, deliberate, or contemplate rather than taking action or making up one's mind.

   If you hem and haw long enough, someone else will do it first.

2. To mumble and procrastinate in one's speech, especially with a reply to a hard question or with voicing a decision on a topical matter; to evade a question, giving vague answers; to equivocate or temporize.

   [Pogo:] How can you provide [someone] with scripts what tells him what to say all day long? […] / [Howland Owl:] It's a boon to humanity … How many dolts do you know who hems an' haws their way thru life? – I gives 'em talk.

   1959 July 15, Walt Kelly, Pogo (comic strip), →ISBN, page 58

   2 more examples

   The man at the Chief Office hemmed and hawed. 'We make it a rule,' he explained, 'to give no information concerning our clients.' 'But in this case,' I urged, 'it is the client who requests you to give the information concerning himself.' Again he hemmed and hawed.

   1903, The People of the Abyss, by Jack London, Chapter 1

   These New Yawk publishers hem and haw and say like well we’d LOVE to publish yer great friends but would it sell and I’m overloaded and this and that — everything but that they really don’t want to publish the writing; […]

   1959 February 5, Lawrence Ferlinghetti, “Lawrence Ferlinghetti in San Francisco to Allen Ginsberg in New York”, in Bill Morgan, editor, I Greet You at the Beginning of a Great Career: The Selected Correspondence of Lawrence Ferlinghetti and Allen Ginsberg, 1955–1997, San Francisco, Calif.: City Lights Books, published 2015, →ISBN, page 88

   Synonyms: hacker