they/them

plural they/thems

1. InternetderogatoryoffensivesometimesA non-binary person; one who uses gender-neutral pronouns.

   Now testosterone has deepened his voice and his journey has reached its final stage – from they/them to he/him.

   2026 April 18, Alex Needham, “Kae Tempest on creativity and his gender transition: ‘I’m just glad to be alive’”, in The Guardian, →ISSN

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   I've long used videogames as a means to cope with both my disability and my dysphoria, but Baldur's Gate 3 is the first time I've been able to really get into roleplaying a they/them causing mayhem.

   2023 September 10, Nova Smith, “Baldur's Gate 3 is the first game that met me halfway in roleplaying a they/them causing mayhem, and that feels like the future of RPGs”, in PC Gamer

   The individual straight cises whom I work with are pretty nice for the most part. Still, people (mostly my boomer coworkers) often misgender other people (mostly the younger they/thems) at my office and bristle when corrected.

   2024 May 1, Emily Gould, quoting Mx. Vanilla, “‘Help! Our DEI Trainer Won’t Stop Talking About Kink’”, in The Cut

   In case you were wondering, "Shakespeare's They/Thems" turned out to be Rosalind and Viola. The Folger talk summons these "cross-dressed female protagonists" as evidence that Shakespeare was "comfortable" with "non-binary" and "transgender identity"

   2024, Colby Gordon, quoting Folger Shakespeare Library, Glorious Bodies: Trans Theology and Renaissance Literature, University of Chicago Press, →ISBN, page 18

present singular third person they/thems · participle present they/themming · participle past they/themmed · past they/themmed · participle past they/them'd · past they/them'd

1. transitiveTo refer to (someone) using gender-neutral pronouns.

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   As per the old Jewish joke “ask two Jews, get three opinions”, there’s room on this seven-strong bill (plus [Hannah] Gadsby) for at least that many different perspectives on gender – including some impish scepticism from Canadian comic DeAnne Smith, who complains about “getting they/them’d against my will since 2005”.

   2023 October 13, Brian Logan, “‘We’re all learning’: why Netflix needs Hannah Gadsby’s Gender Agenda”, in The Guardian