unmother

plural unmothers

1. A woman who is not a mother.

   How we lace away The hours interminable, Intricate and Pale, we nuns And all such unmothers of men;

   1946, Sheila Wingfield, Beat Drum, Beat Heart, page 71

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   There is experimentation with sexuality, monogamy and nonmonogamy, mothers and "unmothers," parenting by groups of bilogical and/or fictive kins, living in separate households and coparenting, etc.

   1998, Ellen Cole, Janet M. Wright, Esther D Rothblum, Lesbian Step Families: An Ethnography of Love, page 11

   So there are mothers and unmothers, and while neither choice is the easy one to make, motherhood is at least the comfortable one.

   2015, Jessica Knoll, Luckiest Girl Alive

present singular third person unmothers · participle present unmothering · participle past unmothered · past unmothered

1. To cause to cease being a mother; to kill or otherwise remove (a mother's) children.

   I e'en quake to proceed, my spirit turns edge, I fear me she's unmother'd; yet I'll venture.

   1966, Cyril Tourneur, Lawrence J. Ross, The Revenger's Tragedy, page 34

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   One day modi mother and unmothered. True twinnes in birth and death ; together drown in this sad stream.

   1640, Ovid, translated by John Gower, edited by Edward Alliston, Ovids Festivalls: Or Romane Calendar - Issue 2, page 33

   My father is departed, I with thee am fallen — thyself art dead and gone : but our foes laugh ; and our unmothered mother is frantic with delight; on whom thou oftentimes wouldst send me word in secret that thou wert on the point thyself to come an avenger.

   1823, Sophocles, The Tragedies of Sophocles - Volume 2, page 195

   The dead daughter presents the already complex mother/daughter relation and unveils in it the (abject?) desire to unmother: in Beloved, the killing of the daughter is done to free her from a future of slavery, and in this it discloses another story,

   1999, Anglistica - Volume 3, page 97

2. To cause to cease having a mother or to fail to mother properly.

   In his poems, Jarrell can finesse the emotional trauma of having been unmothered by a mother who betrayed him both with a divorce and with a displacing younger brother, by now being the mother in the domain of his poetry, wholly on his own terms.

   2006, Lorrie Goldensohn, Dismantling Glory

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   Whatever keeps me from my beginnings, whatever chops me off and isolates me from my whole life is to the harm of my spirit; it unmothers me; it dispossesses me of my heritage and of my truth, and how can I pass on what is mine if I have not received what was others' and passed on to me? he thought.

   1952, William Goyen, Ghost and flesh: stories and tales, page 132