Meanings
plural pick-me girls · alternative pick me girl
- derogatoryA woman who asserts that she is unlike (and sometimes better than) most other women, in order to gain attention, approval, or validation from men.
Coordinate term: pick-me boy
3 more examples
Perhaps that's why Daniel saw her past the rest of the “pick me” girls.
2013, Stephen Hayes, Rock Haulter, eBookIt.com, →ISBNShe kept changing her mind about which pick-me girl it would be from the Popular Group who would get to share her tent.
2020, Suzanne Daniel, A Girl in Three Parts, Knopf Books for Young Readers, →ISBN, page 55I have been called a handmaiden, a “pick me” girl, and been accused of vying for male attention.
2022 February 4, Marie Le Conte, “Feminism has been reduced to the transgender debate”, in The New StatesmanSynonyms: NLOG, pick-me, pickmeisha
Synonyms & antonyms
nounA woman who asserts that she is unlike (and sometimes better than) most other women, in order to gain attention, approval, or validation from men.
Origin
From the phrase pick me + girl, the implication being that such women, like someone pleading "pick me!", are desperate to be chosen over their putative competition.
Full word history & related roots →Cite this entry
pick-me girl. (n.d.). In WatkinsX Dictionary. Retrieved November 5, 2026, from https://dictionary.watkinsx.com/word/pick-me%20girl
“pick-me girl.” WatkinsX Dictionary, https://dictionary.watkinsx.com/word/pick-me%20girl. Accessed November 5, 2026.
WatkinsX Dictionary, s.v. “pick-me girl,” accessed November 5, 2026, https://dictionary.watkinsx.com/word/pick-me%20girl.
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